Hey, this is Anne with your Coaching on the Go with a question for you.

What are you willing to let go of or give up, to become the next version of yourself?

There may be some things that aren’t going to work in your next chapter.

If they’re too embedded in who you think you are you can’t expand. 

My old professor used to say, and I love this because I repeat it regularly, “Don’t you know who I think I am?”

Who we think we are is a big deal.

Who we get embedded in thinking we are is a big deal.

It can limit you.

What are you willing to give up about what you’ve been saying and feeling you are to go to your next level?

I’ll give you an example:

I like to be freewheeling.

I love to fly by the seat of my pants on some level.

I love being in the moment.

I love being able to respond in the moment.

Something about a calendar makes me feel punished at times, scheduling things.

I like to talk in different ways, to be in a state of play with the part of me that gets to be free-spirited and playful and the part of me that gets things done.

Every so often I will find myself tripping over my calendar, missing an appointment.

I will have let go of my calendar with a feeling of, “Ah, I get the afternoon off!”.

I won’t have checked the calendar I will realize I have missed something.

That is a little cute little thing that I do that goes all the way back into my childhood.

We don’t necessarily get rid of that programming ever, but we can understand it, and we can work with it.

Understanding that I resent someone telling me what to do and that someone even could be me, is good information. (Ever find yourself doing the things that you didn’t like to have done around you to yourself? Okay, that’s another coaching segment.)

I get to treat myself and my schedule with more joy than that.

I get to have these things in my calendar.

I get to do them.

I get to be all involved in those things so that I’m enjoying them and not sidetracking and multitasking.

I’m getting the most out of those moments.

But every so often I find myself missing an appointment or two things overlapping or I didn’t put things on the calendar.

There’s a lot of coaching here.

I’ve discovered that when I commit to something, that I get to commit to it with my being, put it in the calendar, observe it, say yes to it all the way through, and I’m committed.

When I start tripping over things and things get messy, I get to step up, step in, and figure out where the clutter is.

I do that by, doing an audit of my mental space.

Am I multitasking too much?

What am I doing that part of me needs a break, to cut loose?

Am I not scheduling enough playtime?

What do I want or need?

Ask yourself that.

If your schedule starts to get messy, what’s going on there?

What are you craving?

What are you needing that you’re not paying attention to?

Maybe you are jamming too much in.

Look at your physical space.

Do you have clutter there?

What could you clean up?

Do you have something on your desk?

Do you have a pile of items that could be cleaned up, and cleared up?

When I do this on the outside, it helps support me on the inside, some of that external clutter, it makes its way into your internal space, and you don’t have room.

You don’t have room for processing and thinking.

My next chapter is always better than the one I’m in right now because I’m so excited and I’m bringing my future into focus.

I’m having these scheduling issues or I have clutter in my space, I am keeping myself from some of the answers, some of the solutions, some of the people that I get to meet.

Do yourself a favor.

Look around your space.

Is it tidy?

Is it organized?

What could be tended to?

What could be refined, what could be organized, what could be engaged with so that you have new space for new things to drop in?

Ask yourself what old characteristics that you hang on to, like mine of saying that I’m a free spirit and then having a little battle with the rigor it takes to step up to the next level.

What is it going to take from me is to let go of this image of myself where everything falls into place, I don’t need a calendar, and I resent a calendar?

What’s it going to take for you to let go of beliefs that are in conflict with where you want to go?

It’s okay to let go of statements you are saying like, “I am this. That’s just who I am.”.

Do you like it?

Do you like just who you say you are, or would you like to shift it?

You can be anything.

It’s not lacking integrity to grow, evolve, and allow yourself to have been that during that chapter.

In that chapter, you’re sliding into a new identity.

That one’s over.

That characteristic is not necessary or beneficial in this next chapter.

More auditing!

I’m not an accountant, but I do like to do personal auditing.

Have a beautiful day, everybody.