146 Failing To Succeed
Hey, this is Anne with your Coaching On The Go.
And today I’m talking about failure.
This is a word I don’t even like to use, but it’s used commonly, so I know you can identify with it, and I’m going to use it today.
Failure, to me, is just an opportunity.
It’s an opportunity for a tweak and a next level strategy to show up.
If you don’t stick your neck out far enough to have a struggle and to be able to understand what you need to do to adjust, you’re not going to grow to the level that you want to, to create that next business, that next idea, that next massive project you’ve been dreaming of most of your life.
That nonprofit, that group that you wanted to form.
You are not going to be the agent of change, the disruptor in this world that you came here to be.
So you get to step into the possibility of failure and into the failure, because failure equals possibility.
You get to reframe the nervousness around it.
Years ago, when I was painting, I would discover that I was painting and drawing on some larger pieces of artwork, and I would put a piece on the side or just stop working for a long period of time.
And when I would come back, the same challenge was waiting for me.
It was sitting there on the board waiting for me.
I hadn’t saved anything by leaving it for months.
Perhaps walking away and going out to exercise would have been a great way to leave and come back and dig in.
The reason something is sitting there and you’re not getting through it is.
It’s something that you get to learn.
There’s something waiting for you to expand around.
So it’s waiting there, and it’s not easy.
Transformation isn’t for the faint of heart.
So if you’re not used to the road signs, you’ll see this time you won’t want to fail.
You’ll be nervous, so you’ll let it sit, and it’ll stay there in your life as long as it takes for you to get through it.
So now flash forward.
When I’m working on an area that I’m not sure about, I ask myself, if I ask myself deeper questions, what am I pretending not to know?
Is one question.
Another thing I do is I go out and I take a run, and then I decide I’m going to come back and I’m going to navigate.
I’m going to do something.
I’m going to figure out what I can do next.
So what is the next step?
It could be cleaning the studio area so I have space and I can get an idea to drop in.
It could be just working on what area in that whole piece.
And I’m talking to you about your next project or your next incarnation.
What do you know that you can move forward?
What can you move forward at this moment?
At this moment?
Because when you do move those things forward, then clarity comes elsewhere.
You get to embrace the process of feeling like you’ll fail, feeling like you might fail, failing, so that you can reframe it instead to be about possibility.
Because it’s often not until you go ahead and you try it that you know if you need to make adjustments when you’re learning how to shoot a basketball, you learn how to get the ball through the hoop by practicing and missing and failing and almost making it, and almost making it and adjusting.
It’s no different here.
You get an opportunity to do a best effort and then miss, and then do another best effort and miss.
And the faster you do that, the more repetitions you get, the more comfortable you’re going to get in that space of possible failure and failure.
And then you can stop talking about it as a fail, because it’s an attempt and then an adjustment.
An attempt and an adjustment.
An attempt and an attempt and a failure, and then an attempt and a success, or an attempt and a partial success, and then a greater success and then success.
So look at the way you navigate your process of expanding into your next size.
Whether it’s needing to contact people or needing to set up an event you’ve never set up before.
What are you doing there?
What’s holding you up?
What can you do next?
What if you fail?
How can you adjust?
Oftentimes the possibility doesn’t even present itself until you made the effort and it didn’t work.
Then you’re resourceful.
Being looks at the whole situation and comes up with a next opportunity to do a second attempt, a third attempt, a 10th, a 20th, a nintienth.
How many attempts are you willing to make to get to your next level to see the next version of yourself?
Have a beautiful day.