This is Anne with your Coaching on the Go.

I’m opening up another doorway for you to reveal some of the ludicrous rules that you have and your beliefs.

Today I want you to focus on things you feel guilty about.

What do you feel guilty about?

That exposes more of your rules.

In the past, felt guilty about using too much toilet paper.

It might sound funny, but we had a two-sheet and a four-sheet rule at our house.

Two sheets, you know, what you use that for, and four sheets for the other.

Really, that’s like half of what you really need, and you end up with a wet hand!

I often felt guilty about taking a nice shower, a long shower.

We had a lot of rules around conservation.

We had a big family.

So I, in the past, have had guilt about overusing.

I think part of my stepping into being an environmentalist was out of the structured rules we had about the usage of water, materials, and money.

I don’t know what environment you grew up in, but I’m sure you have rules that you were taught, and when you don’t follow those rules, you feel guilty.

It’s a great way to pull those up because then you can take a look at them now.

Right now, something that’s fantastic for me is that I have well water, so I take a really long shower.

It helped me not to feel guilty about that.

If I were to write that rule down, “You don’t waste water.”

Or the rule is, we used to actually have a shower in the basement and we had to turn off the water and it was cold down there to lather up and then turn it on, to shower up, then turn it off, do whatever else, then turn it on, then turn it off, so very little water was being used.

I remember standing under the shower nozzle, it leaked a little bit, so standing under the drip I could get a little heat from the dripping hot water.

I knew how far I could turn the faucet on so the water would flow out in a little drip without you being able to being heard it in the plumbing.

When out for sports at the high school, we could take the long shower, as long as we wanted.

We were told that we needed to take our shower at school.

So you can see from certain necessities with how you were raised, there will be certain structures you were taught to follow.

In those actions, there are underlying rules.

The underlying rule here is “You don’t waste materials.”

“It costs money.”

There are some rules around money.

“We don’t waste money.

“We don’t waste resources.”

“We handle our money a certain way.”

“We handle our resources a certain way.”

What I’m getting at here is you get to take a look into what makes you feel guilty, because those feelings are usually linked to things that you decided were true and that you had to follow, and you’re not following them.

Next week, I’m going to take you into some great ways to unravel those logically, emotionally, etc.

In the meantime, I’ve been giving you ways to loosen up your underlying structures.

We talk about this every so often because it’s essential to growth and transformation.

As you live each day, things pop up.

If you know the signals, then you can do these processes, use these tools on your own, and become self-cleaning.

So I highly recommend you take the rules that you’re discovering through guilt or through shoulds and shouldn’ts and things that I’ve been talking about, and if you’re visual, throw them down on a poster.

You could put each one on its own eventually, but you could throw them down on a big wall size post-it or poster.

If you like to keep things in a binder, throw them into a notepad or a diary.

But I definitely would not let these just dangle in the open air.

These are to be looked at.

If you want to make some major shifts, this is a great way to do it.

I don’t care how long I’ve been doing this work.

I find things, I discover things, and I discover a deeper level of a lot of the rules and paradigms.

I might have decided that I don’t need the rules anymore, and still find I’m following them.

We’re going to keep working on this.

Have a beautiful day.