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261 Research Away Your Old Rules

Aug 8, 2023 | Uncategorized

Hey, this is Anne with your Coaching on the Go.

And I’m talking about the third technique for supporting you in changing your rules, beliefs, or paradigms.

When they’re out of date, they’re not serving you, and they’re not directing you in the direction you’d like to go in life.

And you’re feeling lots of pain, feelings of unworthiness, just things are not working and you’re not feeling free today.

Want to talk about educating yourself.

Seeking out information and knowledge that contradicts the antiquated belief, reading books, and articles, and finding whatever you need to contradict that which you don’t want to keep anymore.

So that you can expand your understanding and it can help you see the limitations of that outdated belief.

I do this regularly.

This is part of my game plan.

I look for it because I am a devil’s advocate for things I don’t like.

As we talked about yesterday, I find ways to refute a rule or structure that I want to get rid of.

I go out of my way to research things and discover.

When I was in my first marriage, my husband didn’t want to have more than two children.

Oh, my gosh.

I always wanted to have eight, and I wanted to feel really good about why I wasn’t going to have more children.

So I was an environmentalist, and as I started looking through different articles about population growth, et cetera, I found many things that could make me feel good about us having two kids and being two adults and zero population growth.

I looked at other things environmentally that were going on that made me feel good about having two.

I thought about my career and how I could launch into my career faster as a teacher and my art career.

There were many reasons why I could be happy with two.

So I settled on that.

And then I had a surprise pregnancy.

When is that ever really a surprise?

I had a surprise pregnancy, and I had really turned my mind around about not having more children, and I was shocked.

And so I had an opportunity to completely reacquaint myself with the reasons why I wanted to have more and let go of the reasons why I was going to have two.

So you can do this any way you want.

You can find information and reasons for whatever decisions you want to make in your life.

If you’re getting rid of a rule that’s antiquated, you have a lot of motivation to find reasons why you can let that go and step in a new direction.

And that really supports because you’re an intelligent being and it’s easier to have rationale behind something than to just decide, I’m not going to do that anymore.

It’s kind of like someone giving you a rule and you saying, Why do we have that?

And you say, Because I made that rule, and that’s how it is.

So the more you can put in your arsenal the easier it is to let these rules go away.

And when they pop up again, you can say, hey, that doesn’t make sense because of this, and this.

So your call to action today is to educate yourself.

Seek out information and knowledge that contradicts your antiquated belief.

Search all over for it so that you can let go of this outdated belief, this antiquated belief confidently.

Sending you love.