34 Playing Games with the “Extras”
So I have found over time that once I take on my choice to help somebody or do this extra thing, that I’m not going to treat it like an extra. When I go to make my calendar in the morning or the night before, when I’m putting down the things that I want to do and mentally taking note of what the next day is going to look like, I’m actually setting my intention, my attention and intention for what’s going to happen in the next 24 hours or 48 hours. So not thinking of these things as extra and above and beyond is really helpful.
So as you’re putting your calendar together, just throw it in there without any extra energy around it, that it’s an extra task that’s above and beyond what you’re capable of, and just treat it as a normal thing. Put it in there, schedule it in, feel great about it. Envision your day, envision having the opportunity to do everything that you have set your mind to wanting to do. If you’re having to do a couple extra hours of work later in the day to accommodate something that you’re helping with earlier, how can that feel great? That you’ve done this thing that you really wanted to do, you’ve helped this particular person or served on this certain level, and it feels wonderful and you’re just shifting some of the hours of your day around so you can still be a great partner, still be a great mother, still be a great wife, still be great at your job, still be capable.
So you’re not leaving anything behind, you just picked some extra things that you want to get done that day. They’re not demanding, they’re just additional opportunities for the day. I hope that helps. I know it’s short, but sometimes we just get to shift the way we’re thinking, and even the words we’re using.
Today I get to take my mom for that appointment. She’s going to really enjoy that and I’m going to enjoy that extra time with her. And then, because I have the capability, I get to shift my schedule slightly to do that, because I have created a life of flexibility and resourcefulness. So using words that are empowering and creating a schedule without heaviness of burden of extra tasks.
That’s my coaching for you today, and I want to challenge you, as I did last time, to jump on to a different venue to give me some feedback and tell me if you like this coaching today. Jumping into the Instagram page, SpiritRiver Coaching, saying hi to me there. I love you guys, have a beautiful day.