This is Anne with your Coaching On The Go.

If you have looked at everything you can think of, and are still not moving forward in your Vision, and you understand there is a certain spot where you let go of the tension…if you had a string between where you are now and your Vision, if it was pinned to your Vision, you keep attention on it (attention and tension), you keep moving forward.

If you drop the ball, if you take your energy or mind off of it, there gets to be a gap in the tension.

Then it’s easy not to pick it up again, or to stop the momentum that you started over and over so you never get anywhere.

It’s a real labor, a big effort.

Now, there are many reasons people do this, but they all rooted in fear.

There is something that you are scared of.

If you are at a plateau and in a repeating pattern, not getting what you want, fear is an excellent inhibitor.

What could you be scared of?

I don’t know.

You have to look inside yourself to discover what the fear is about.

This is typically where the fears go way back into childhood,

Between invitro and age five, people create their rules and structures.

Who likes to feel pain?

Nobody.

When you are new to this physical realm, and come across a circumstance that hurts and don’t know why, you create a story.

You create a story that looks kind of like a postulate in math.

“When this happens, and this happens, this happens.”

“When this happens, if I act this way, it will be okay.”

“This is what I have to do for peace and love and happiness.”

Sometimes in those childhood stories, you can’t figure out what to do.

There’s nothing you can do.

Behaviors and structures get set up for the person who, no matter what they do, can’t succeed.

If you are in a scenario where you behave a certain way in that moment and it eases the pain, you may decide that is who you have to be from now.

When you have a deep-seated rule or structure you created, if it’s solving or soothing a pain, it becomes a foundational structure for the way you operate.

You see it repeating throughout your life.

You will see it over and over and over and over until you allow yourself to change it.

There are ways to change these patterns.

I am very good at helping people with this.

Until you make a shift, you can pretend it away, or on an intellectual level, you can talk about it, but until you do the deep work, you will continue to repeat it over and over.

You will see people who amass money and lose it all.

You will see people who create a product and business and then get to the point where they would succeed with it and market it, and they drop the ball.

You’ll see somebody who seems to get a golden opportunity every so often and something destroys it, maybe something that seems outside of themselves sabotages it.

They never get beyond certain challenges.

These repeating patterns are a telltale sign that you need a system upgrade.

You need to go into the 4.0 or 5.0 version of yourself.

We give our phones an update regularly. 

How infrequently do you give the way that you operate an update?

Our whole world is changing.

The people around us are changing.

Why would you not shift your internal rules and structures to be compatible with the new time?

This is where I do the most impactful work.

I did it for myself and I do it for others.

If you don’t know why you continue to get stopped, you’ve got to come, dig in, and figure it out so you can stop the repeating pattern of failure, move ahead, and become who you came to become!