This is Anne with your Coaching On The Go.

Tony Robbins, years ago, talked about the six basic human needs he’s discovered through working with millions of people.

There are these commonalities for what people need.

The first one is certainty, that things are comfortable, that you know what’s going to happen, that there are things in your life that are unshakable.

The second is variety.

If you notice, variety and certainty don’t necessarily go right together.

The third is for significance, that you feel important and unique in the world in some way.

The fifth is love and connection.

He said that most people settle for connection instead of going all the way in where the love is.

The top two are spiritual human needs and they are for contribution and growth.

So the first two are constantly in battle.

From what I see in my work with human beings and in myself, you have an internal mechanism that is calling you to follow your rules and structures.

It feels comfortable to do what you’ve always done because you know about it.

When you are in for growth, to expand yourself or your life or your business, you end up in that uncharted territory of variety and of growth.

Oftentimes your inner being, as savvy as it is, creates obstacles.

It might seem crazy to you that you can create obstacles for yourself.

Some of the obstacles are so real that it’s hard to believe you could have created them.

Whatever mechanism your being will fall for, your inner being will use to keep you comfortable.

In my case, it has been family.

It has been duty to family.

So, oftentimes when I am approaching a next level in my career because of the hierarchy I put my career in versus family, when the going gets tough, for years I’ve worked through the fact that something in my family pops up, a need to help somebody, somebody actually needs help.

It’s not fake.

Over time, I’ve decided that I can both have a beautiful career and be there for family.

It has called me to get more resourceful about how I serve my family.

When they need something, it doesn’t always have to be me.

Perhaps I leverage a sister or somebody to support me when I’m launching something or in the midst of something.

I can still be there and serve to ensure they get what they need, but it’s not necessarily me all the time that is doing it.

As we head into holidays or your life continues to unfold and people need help or support, and beliefs that you have had about what you have to do to be a good person conflict with your interest in developing a program, being a better leader in your life, getting a promotion in your career, building a business, or executing a nonprofit, it is good to start noticing the patterns of things that come up to tempt you to leave your personal goals and put them aside.

That is your human need of certainty and comfort playing itself against your desires for growth and variety.

Keep that in mind as you enter holiday seasons and seasons where perhaps you are helping elderly parents or someone in your life who needs a lot of support.

Whatever those categories that could derail you are, see how they show up.

What would it look like if you decide that you can do both?

You can do everything.

That is the foundation of my coaching and life, anything you want to do, you can do.

You can have room for everything.

Have a beautiful day.