This is Anne with your Coaching On The Go.

Significance is an interesting human need because every person can desire significance in a different way.

Someone like Gandhi, who lived so basically in the world during his lifetime, is far from someone who comes out of poverty and amasses a billion dollars.

It doesn’t matter how you feel significant.

It is a basic human need to feel like an important individual in the world.

That need for significance can draw you to alter your path.

Ultimately you would be like a child in this world, freely roaming around, picking and choosing, responding to your hunches and feelings, and moving forward.

As you grow up, you develop this identity with many of the basic human needs inside.

My identity holds that I do feel significant when I’m growing and learning, when I’m contributing, when I’m trying something new, when I’m in a beautiful love relationship, or a beautiful family relationship.

The only human need for me that doesn’t hit significance is the need for certainty.

You can see how wrapped up ego and your definition of self is in what you will allow yourself to do and not do.

I felt significant for many years, living minimally.

I didn’t have much at the time so I decided to take great pride in the fact that I had a big beautiful life on very little.

As I changed that definition, there were a variety of things that I discovered and investigated in the environment, world, and philosophies about abundance and lack.

I changed my just a simple mission statement of mine.

It shifted my whole life.

Take time today, this week, and always to look at your definition of self.

Is your definition keeping you from your next level?

What are you willing to let go of in your rules, beliefs, and your your job description for yourself in this life so you can keep moving?

Again, a great way to discover if you are being held back or in tension over wanting to move forward is, you feel stressed or choked with internal resistance.

We are in the process of helping my 100 and 90 year old parents move at my dad’s request, to an independent living place.

It’s gorgeous.

It is super classy.

It looks like a high-end condo and the facility itself has services to the point where they would never have to leave that facility.

My mom has lived on her block for 80 years.

She moved in at age 11.

If they go through with this, she will be moving out at age 91.

She moved in with her parents across the block when she was a little girl.

After they got married they moved in, paid rent at her parent’s house for a few years, and when they had their third child, found a house down the alley across the block and moved in.

At first, she was extremely resistant to the idea of moving and yesterday decided as long as they have a four-month waiting period where they don’t lose any money for reserving the room, she would go ahead and sign papers to hold the unit.

There were tears involved and I just held her hand and said, “Yeah, me too. We love this block, we love this house” and we talked about allowing a new opportunity.

Looking at this topic is a beautiful thing to do because it will prepare you for ongoing changes and shifts and allow you to kiss something goodbye and welcome in something new.

Have a beautiful day.