This is Anne with your Coaching on the Go.

Last week we talked about the major stories you tell in your life and the themes behind those major stories.

This week, we are going deeper into language.

Focus on the things that you say regularly.

What is the thing that you say when something doesn’t go your way?

What are the things that you say?

There is usually one that is the most common.

I’ll just be transparent.

Wben I started to do this, I was saying, “How can I be so stupid?”

I was saying that when things wouldn’t go the way that I wish they would.

“Oh my gosh, I’m so stupid. How could I be so stupid?” 

What are you saying?

There is usually a trend, again, just like a trend in our stories.

What is the trend in the things you say about yourself or the phrases you use?

Get to the bottom of what you say to yourself when something happens you don’t like.

Listen to yourself today and hear the words you are saying to yourself.

Next time, we will pick other things to listen for.

This is self investigation.

If you’re saying to yourself something like I was – “How can I be so stupid?”, that is not going to promote great thinking, and inspiration. 

If you had a friend, parent, or someone in your proximity who said that to you, it would be demoralizing.

Your homework for today, pay attention, discover, push reply, and tell me what you are saying to yourself.

Do the deep work.

We often say these things and don’t pay attention.

I was around someone that I care for that was doing some work for me, and they said, “Oh, I’m such an idiot.”

They said that regularly. “I’m such an idiot.”

What are you saying to yourself?

Let me know.