Hey, it’s Anne with SpiritRiver.

Today I want to talk to you about your language.

There’s the book The Four Agreements, and if you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it.

One of The Four Agreements is to be impeccable with your word.

As you speak about yourself and life, are you saying things that reinforce what you don’t like or what you would like? 

Now, I don’t think all you do is just speak well and have everything happen for you, but it’s an important component.

It sets a momentum.

Here’s another good book, What Do You Say When You Talk to Yourself.

Tony Robbins talks about this too.

He says there is one underlying thing we say to ourselves over and over and over.

Start to think about that.

What is that thing?

I noticed when I interacted in a Tony Robbins training and he asked this, I was actually saying, when something would happen I didn’t want, “I’m so stupid.”

I was actually saying that to myself subconsciously, and sometimes out loud.

“How can I be so stupid?

“I’m so stupid.”

Once in a while I work with somebody and when they do what they think is a mistake and they say, “Ugh, I’m so stupid.” 

So, a couple things today.

One, think about what you think about (metacognition), when you blunder or drop something.

Is there something that you’re saying?

Think about that and catch it.

What could you say?

When you are working towards a goal and have a frustration, or when you have been blocked in the past, how do you identify yourself when you are talking? 

In the past, remembering people’s names has been a challenge for me.

I used to report out to people, “I am bad with names.”

Do you think that’s going to help me become better with names, or do you think that’s going to keep me in a paradigm where I’m repeatedly not remembering people’s names?

I want to give myself an opportunity to be better.

When you talk about where you are going, be cognizant of your words.

If you do have things about yourself you are working on shifting, how could you speak about them to a friend, or somebody, or to yourself, in a way that gives you room for growth?

Your assignment for the rest of the week is to think about the words you use, how you use them, and how you could catch yourself.

Play a game with yourself and use words better or stop after you have said something you don’t want to be repeated, like “I’m terrible at this.”

Think of something better to say like, “I’m learning about this.  I like to learn!”

Jot the derogatory things you say, and then things that you can say to replace those. 

Feel free to tell me the unkind thing you say the most often about yourself, I’d love to hear that and what you are prepared to say now in its place.

Send me an email, share in your pod if you are a client, or be a little vulnerable on my LinkedIn page, and let people know so you have accountability.