This is Anne with your Coaching On The Go wrapping up a couple of sessions about going down the rabbit hole of the fear or excuse that you’ve been using to keep yourself from getting into your vision and living there.

What did you discover this week in your investigation?

Sometimes just knowing where a block is coming from, allows you to see that it’s not rational or that it’s ludicrous and you can decide that you’re gonna do something else…you are gonna you’re gonna go for it.

If you discover that, it’s connected to a belief system that you had for a long time.

If so, your next step is to go all the way back into that.

I do that with people.

It’s a detailed process.

Write down as many things as you can about where that story or statement comes from.

How old were you when you first heard it, when you think back?

I take people on a trip into that memory.

What you can do back there is change your history.

As an adult looking back on it, you have a different perspective than you did as a child.

You can look at all the people who are part of that story.

You can go right back into the room or the place where it happened.

You can see who was there and what they said.

You can see what you can, and imagine or experience what each person was experiencing there.

When I go back in time to a certain moment, when I felt small because I had been wetting my bed, I was being punished, and I felt humiliated.

I was being humiliated in my opinion, around my family members and my friends, because I was older,

I was five.

I wasn’t a baby anymore.

When I went back as an adult to look at that scenario, I remembered that my father had been in a serious accident right before that.

My mom was taking care of seven Children, one under a year old.

My dad was in intensive care.

I was wetting the bed.

When I looked at what was happening there from my Mom’s perspective, having been a mother now, I could see all the things that she could have been worried about, how tired she must have been, when she had to wake up in the middle of the night over and over, coming upstairs and me having wet my bed.

How challenging that could have been for her.

I went through and imagined all the things that she would have to do, then and there, in the middle of the night, with her husband in the hospital, washing the sheets, locating a child to a different bed, changing my pajamas, helping me clean up…

I got a different perspective on that moment in time.

Instead of making a grandiose story out of it, which I did to protect myself, deciding what I had to do to be a good girl back there and not get the attention I didn’t want, I now got to look at that in a different light.

It caused me to talk to my mom about it as an adult and tell her how much I appreciated it and how hard it must have been.

She talked with me then about different things she would have done, maybe looking back she could have taken me to the doctor to see if I had a bladder infection.

All sorts of healing happened.

I was able to shift the way people even saw me there.

I felt embarrassed and humiliated, but when looked back, I realized most of my siblings were probably sleeping.

They probably weren’t paying attention to what was happening.

When you go back into a traumatic story as an adult, you can look at it in a new light and see it differently.

I do this with people because it is a challenging exercise.

I take people in there and I ask questions.

I guide people so that they can frame it and come out with a new understanding.

I’ve been doing it with people for a long time.

There are certain things I look for so I guide you to find new possibilities.

Once you discover these things for yourself, it changes your history.

You realize that the foundation of your memory is not quite what you thought it was.

And that changes the way you feel about your whole life.

So when people tell you, you can’t change your past, it’s not true.

You can change your past in this way and that will open up a pathway for you because you’re not gonna be inhibited anymore by that old story.

Some old stories are simple and some are complex.

Some go back a bit, and some go all the way back.

You can keep remembering more and more things about how far back they go.

If you have an excuse you’ve been using throughout your life and you see it repeating itself, it’s time to go deep.

As you do, you’re going to create space to get rid of the excuses associated with that excuse and you will have the freedom to move again.

Have a beautiful day.