It’s Anne with your Coaching on the Go.

Stories, stories, stories.

We are talking about stories.

Yesterday’s homework was about finding the gift in a traumatic story or a story that is a victim’s story in your life.

What did you receive?

What powerful thing did you receive in the story, from the story, from what happened in the situation?

A lot of you are still going back into your story, justifying it, and retelling it.

You are telling the story instead of going into the story.

If you didn’t do the work yesterday, get back in there.

Take one story that you tell that is not empowering or positive.

What was the gift that came into your life through it?

Where are you now because of it (a positive)?

Today is a new day.

We are taking the story and looking at the message.

What was the message that you conveyed in that story?

What is the overarching purpose of that story?

What is it illustrating?

Is it illustrating hardship when you tell it?

Are you standing in your power, or is it justifying how tough your life was?

If it’s not justifying something positive, what is it justifying?

What is it telling the story of?

If it’s not empowering, you are choosing a disempowering story, why do you keep choosing it?

Why do you keep telling it?

What’s in it for you?

If I go back to a story that I told over and over that wasn’t empowering, why was I telling it?

Well, first of all, the meaning of the story was I was wronged.

I was a victim of circumstance.

Why was I reiterating that?

Well, in my case, I was justifying the actions I took, looking for pity, looking to be surrounded by understanding and feedback like “poor you”.

“Wow. Wow, what you went through.”

This isn’t empowering.

When I look at the gift and tell the story, if I choose to tell it again… I don’t need to tell it anymore unless I’m illustrating a point.

But if I do choose to tell it again, I can talk about the gift I received and where I am now because of it, that I realize I wouldn’t have left that job if it hadn’t been traumatic, because I felt responsible and connected to the students I was teaching.

The gift and the way the end of my job presented itself is that I learned this, this, this, and this, and it’s opened the doors here and here in my life.

Keep doing the work.

This is challenging.

It’s easier to keep telling the story, but you don’t need to.

When you release the disempowering stories about your past and are focused on the now and future, you stand freshly in the moment.

Dig into your stories.

Find out what the message is.

Find out what your motivation for telling them is.

See and think of the gift.

How can you tell the story with the gift included?

Practice leaving the old story behind and telling the story that includes the gift, so it’s empowering to you and the people you share it with.

Have a beautiful day engaging with your story.