Hey, it’s Anne with your Coaching on the Go.

Part two is about how you are speaking to yourself, your internal dialog.

Super important.

We are shifting away from, “I can’t believe how stupid I am,” or, “I’m so dumb,” or, “I’m such an idiot.”…the things you don’t say out loud, and sometimes say out loud acting like you’re joking, that is demeaning about yourself.

You are shifting those this week.

Today you are starting this if you haven’t already.

It takes time to change a habit.

You are going to stop yourself and say something empowering.

So if you were saying, “Oh, I’m such an idiot”, what can you say instead?

If you did something and it didn’t quite work, could you say:

“I know I can get this, I’m really intelligent. If I give myself a minute, I’ll figure out a better solution for this. I’m just going to take my time and I will get this right. I’m super resourceful I’m going to come up with a solution for this.” 

As you are going through your day, compelled to say something to yourself, think about where you want to go and encourage yourself with the language that you’re using.

“I know today I can get my project done.”

“I’m resourceful.”

“I’ve shifted my energy.”

“I am going to creatively attack this project.”

“Wow, I’m smart!”

“That was really resourceful.” 

That’s loving.

I want you to develop some things to say about yourself that emphasize the direction you want to go that are actually true.

These are the things that are true about you that you don’t say to yourself.

Today, you get to tell the truth about who you really are: the beautiful, gifted, talented human being that you are.

You get to talk that way about yourself and support that and reinforce it. And you get to flush the toilet on the demeaning language that you’ve been using, if you have been. These are all small shifts that you get to make that can make a big difference in the way that you show up in life, for yourself and others.

So, as I said, do the courageous work, the self-investigation.

You have had this internal dialog going on since you were a child, so likely you don’t even know what you’re saying.

You don’t know what you have been saying to yourself.

It is said that how you treat yourself is how others treat you.

I you are having problems with how other people are treating you, look at how you are treating yourself, and how you are talking about yourself.

What are you saying about yourself?

Shift it.

You can change anything.

It’s authentic to change it when you know that what you have been doing and saying hasn’t been real to who you are and has been demeaning to who you are.

Treat yourself like your own best friend.

Treat yourself like somebody who loves, appreciates, and wants to encourage you towards your best life.

So…,more self-reflection, noticing, metacognitive exercises for you to dig in within yourself and make significant change by making small changes.

Report to me what you decide to say.

If you have a certain thing you have been saying that is disempowering, tell me what language you are committed to using now.

Send me an email.

Tell me what you don’t want to say anymore, what you are not saying anymore, and what you are committed to replacing that with.

Have a beautiful day speaking words of power into your life about yourself.